He’s negative, I’m Negative, so What’s the Big Deal?

He’s negative, I’m Negative, so What’s the Big Deal?

Negative men who only play with negative men are at very high risk of being infected by another who believed he was negative. Here is why…

many HIV+ men are unaware of their HIV+ status, believing they are negative based on their latest test result or because they have only had sex with other men who have told them that they are HIV-.

If a sex partner’s HIV infection is recent, he may be at his most contagious stage and yet still not have developed antibodies that would show POS in an HIV test. And just because someone is a Midshipman, Cadet or deployable officer who just returned from overseas, there is no certainty that they are negative even on the day of a “negative” HIV test if they have engaged in unsafe sex at ay time six months before their previous HIV test.

Believe it or not, some men will blatantly lie to you, the Midshipman or junior officer, about their HIV status to get what they want for themselves, or because they know the stigma associated with being positive will scare you away. Not everybody has your integrity. Even commissioned US Navy officers have blatantly lied to other officers about their status. A Chaplain who was stationed at the Naval Academy was charged with multiple violations of the UCMJ for not informing a military partners he was HIV+ prior to engaging in unsafe sex. The officer pled guilty, and in his plea bargain to preclude a life long sentence, he named all of his sex partners so that they could be tested. The chaplain spent two years in the brig.

If any sex partner is willing to engage in unsafe sex with you, you should to assume that person is HIV+ regardless of what he says or when he has been most recently tested for HIV, whether or not he is another Midshipman or Cadet or junior officer.

Of the alumni who have shared their personal HIV infection stories with us, almost all were infected by men who they believed were negative. Those men were not, and in most cases, those men had been recently infected, were highly contagious and were unaware that they were spreading the virus.

Please be smart, be perceptive, think ahead for your own physical and mental health. From the experiences of the alumni, we just can’t stress enough, always be safe — Never, EVER accept “you’re negative, and I’m negative so what’s the big deal?” We can’t over stress “always be safe – every time without exception.”